We need to wake up screaming

Take a good look around in our neighborhoods. What do you see? How can you explain what is happening? How did it all get started? Who is the blame? Many questions arise when we really take a good look at who and what we are. The neighborhood is struggling with drug invested streets, babies having babies, murders, black on black crime, HIV etc. And who is the blame? YES! Christians say it started from the beginning with sin yes there is much true to that. Others may say that it is do to our economic situation that may be true too.  My heart grieves when I see our young adults still wanting their mothers to feed them, clothed them, and give them allowance. Something is wrong especially when our young men still want to lay at home in their own room without even thinking about getting a job. Yes! I know that there may be a shortage of men in the home but women there is no excuse for this behavior. We need to wake up and understand that too much of anything can kill you!! We as a black people are killing ourselves we do not need anyone to come into our neighborhoods and do this for us. If each of us take a stand and fight for our children and their children perhaps we can make a difference in our communities. If we scream loud enough someone will get the picture. So how about starting in your own home. SCREAM!!!!
In His Grace

Standing firm in your singleness!

This is for my ladies out there that are praying for a mate. I write this because my heart was right where yours is right now. Its funny because when you are in your teens and twenty's and trust God to send you a mate it seemed to be very possible to believe. But when you get into your thirty's and possible forty's your hope for a possible mate begans to vaporate. And at this point the devil begans to tell you that something is wrong with you, it will never happen, and you began to say what do I need to do. How can I fix myself? I know ladies because I have been there to. Well let me tell you this, you going out trying to find a mate on your own is not the answer. God did not design us that way. The bible clearly states that the man who finds a wife finds a good thing. When you go out on your own you mess things up. I want to take this short moment to encourage you because some of you ladies are degrading yourself just to have a man in your life. You are better then that and until you see yourself that way you will never accept it. Before God allowed my husband to come into my life. God took me on a journey with myself. I had to take a good look at myself inside and out. Which is always hard to do because we as humans do not want to face the truths about ourselves. But once you do it becomes very liberating and at that point time is not a factor for when the man comes because you feel comfortable in your own skin until he does. Ladies take time with yourself and get to know you because when you and your mate do come together there will be times that you will say to yourself man if I had only spent time alone in this place I would be better at it. I am so grateful that God had allowed me to experience this beautiful thing called marriage at the ripe age of 34 at the time. But believe me because my husband and I dealt with some of our garbage before we got married we are able to keep moving forward going on six years and strong. Now I know that we all have our own bias when it comes to a healthy marriage but I am going to stand firm and say. I truly believe that 98% of the time marriage fail its because one or both spouses choose not to believe the truth about themselves and they are not willing to change. Marriage is work and you must be able to communicate and be totally honest with yourself and your mate. So ladies I encourage you that if you need to work on somethings start now. Do not wait until the mate finds you and falls in love with the false you. And then find the real you in the marriage. Stay strong ladies and know that God has not forgotten you and nor did he forget your prayers. 
In His Love, 
Brown-Girl Perspective