This is for my ladies out there that are praying for a mate. I write this because my heart was right where yours is right now. Its funny because when you are in your teens and twenty's and trust God to send you a mate it seemed to be very possible to believe. But when you get into your thirty's and possible forty's your hope for a possible mate begans to vaporate. And at this point the devil begans to tell you that something is wrong with you, it will never happen, and you began to say what do I need to do. How can I fix myself? I know ladies because I have been there to. Well let me tell you this, you going out trying to find a mate on your own is not the answer. God did not design us that way. The bible clearly states that the man who finds a wife finds a good thing. When you go out on your own you mess things up. I want to take this short moment to encourage you because some of you ladies are degrading yourself just to have a man in your life. You are better then that and until you see yourself that way you will never accept it. Before God allowed my husband to come into my life. God took me on a journey with myself. I had to take a good look at myself inside and out. Which is always hard to do because we as humans do not want to face the truths about ourselves. But once you do it becomes very liberating and at that point time is not a factor for when the man comes because you feel comfortable in your own skin until he does. Ladies take time with yourself and get to know you because when you and your mate do come together there will be times that you will say to yourself man if I had only spent time alone in this place I would be better at it. I am so grateful that God had allowed me to experience this beautiful thing called marriage at the ripe age of 34 at the time. But believe me because my husband and I dealt with some of our garbage before we got married we are able to keep moving forward going on six years and strong. Now I know that we all have our own bias when it comes to a healthy marriage but I am going to stand firm and say. I truly believe that 98% of the time marriage fail its because one or both spouses choose not to believe the truth about themselves and they are not willing to change. Marriage is work and you must be able to communicate and be totally honest with yourself and your mate. So ladies I encourage you that if you need to work on somethings start now. Do not wait until the mate finds you and falls in love with the false you. And then find the real you in the marriage. Stay strong ladies and know that God has not forgotten you and nor did he forget your prayers.
In His Love,
Brown-Girl Perspective
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